Neurolinguistics – FreeFitFuel

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1) Why language works (the useful brain bits)

Pathways: language shaping attention, emotion, and action — Placeholder diagram — save as `nl-word-pathways.png`.

Attention filters (RAS): Your brain acts like a search engine. Questions like “What’s the smallest helpful action?” bias you to notice tiny, doable steps.
Emotion regulation (PFC ↔ amygdala): Concrete, compassionate wording (“One step now.”) lowers the alarm and restores choice.
Action selection (habits): Short, specific sentences are easier to execute and repeat, reinforcing the circuit you want.

Principle: Prefer near-term, simple, kind language. It fuels the prefrontal cortex and habit loops.

2) Self-talk upgrades (from threat to support)

Self-talk swaps illustrated in two speech bubbles — Placeholder — save as `nl-self-talk-swaps.png`.

From: “I must not fail.”
To: “I’ll do the next small step.”

From: “It’s too much.”
To: “One part now, one part later.”

From: “I’m terrible at this.”
To: “I’m learning out loud.”

From: “I should be further on.”
To: “Progress beats perfect.”

From: “I can’t cope.”
To: “Breathe, then choose one thing.”

From: “I never stick to plans.”
To: “I make tiny plans I can repeat.”

Why small wording shifts work

Believability ladder: “I am confident” may feel false. Try “I’m learning to back myself.”
Present + specific: “One step now” beats vague “be better”.
Action-paired: Words + a 60-sec behaviour create immediate evidence.

Practice: Say your new line out loud daily for a week; sound + repetition wires it faster.

3) Defusing sticky thoughts (unhook & choose)

When a thought grabs the steering wheel, add a little space so choice returns:

Label it: “I’m having the thought that I’ll mess this up.”
Cartoon voice (in your head): Saying the thought in a silly tone turns the volume down.
Park & act: Write it on paper, fold once, do a 60-second task anyway.
Sensory anchor: Hand on chest + slow exhale while you say, “This is a wave; I can ride it.”

This isn’t arguing with thoughts — it’s stepping out of them.

4) Micro-reframes (accurate, not fake-positive)

Reframing steps infographic — Placeholder — save as `nl-reframe-steps.png`.

Time pressure
“There isn’t enough time” → “There’s time for the first slice.”
Action: 5-minute timer.

Setback
“I’ve blown it” → “I’m one decision from back on track.”
Action: drink water; restart.

Feedback
“They hate it” → “There’s a clue to improve.”
Action: note one tweak.

Low energy
“I can’t do anything” → “I can do the smallest part.”
Action: 60-sec tidy.

Carer strain
“I should do more” → “Enough is compassionate.”
Action: one boundary phrase.

Health wobble
“Back to zero” → “Paths fade; paths regrow.”
Action: short walk.

Deeper dive: see Neuroscience → Reframing for step-by-step.

5) If–Then planning (implementation intentions)

If–Then flow: trigger to tiny action — Placeholder — save as `nl-if-then.png`.

If the kettle boils → Then breathe once and stretch shoulders.
If I open my laptop → Then write one ugly sentence.
If I feel overwhelmed → Then brain-dump 3 bullets on paper.
If evening snack urge hits → Then “Tea first,” step outside.

Tiny, obvious actions win. The point is reliability, not impressiveness.

6) Motivation prompts (gentle questions beat “shoulds”)

“What would 1% better look like?”

“What’s the smallest helpful action?”

“What would Future-Me thank me for?”

“If this were easy, what would it be?”

“What could I remove to make this simpler?”

“Who can I text for a two-line boost?”

7) Anchors & cues (make words land in the body)

Pair a phrase with a sensory cue so it “sticks.” The cue becomes a shortcut to the state you want.

Breath + phrase

In for 4, out for 6 while saying “One thing now.” The exhale signals safety; the phrase sets focus.

Touch + phrase

Hand on chest: “I can ride this wave.” Touch anchors the words; useful for anxiety spikes.

Place + phrase

Doorway = reset: each time you pass, “What matters next?” Create a reliable micro-pause.

Hand on chest and a post-it cue on a door frame — Anchors make a phrase physical — breath, touch, or place help it stick.

8) Scripts for carers (kind, boundaried)

Time boundary: “I can help for 20 minutes now, then I need a break. We’ll pick up at 4pm.”
Repeat requests: “We’ve decided X for today. If it changes, I’ll let you know.”
Redirect agitation: “Let’s have a cup of tea first, then look at the form together.”
Saying no: “I can’t do that today. I can call tomorrow morning.”
Self-compassion: “That was hard and I stayed kind. Now I rest for five minutes.”

9) Scripts in grief (tender, real)

To others: “I don’t need solutions, just company while this hurts.”
To yourself: “Waves are part of love. I’ll let this one pass safely.”
At work: “I have reduced capacity this week. Here’s what I can deliver by Friday.”
Dates & triggers: “That day is heavy for me. I’ll keep the evening free and do something gentle.”

More support: Grief.

10) Work & study (clear, doable language)

Start task: “Open the file and write the first ugly sentence.”
Clarify ask: “What does ‘good’ look like here? Three bullets would help.”
Push back: “I can do X by Wednesday or Y by Friday — which is higher priority?”
End day: “What’s the very first step tomorrow? I’ll leave it at the top of the page.”

11) Practise plan (make it stick)

Pick 2–3 phrases from above. Put them on a card or phone note.
Anchor with If–Then: “If kettle boils → Then say ‘One part now, one later.’”
Say them out loud once or twice daily (sound matters).
Weekly review: keep what helps; replace what doesn’t.

12) Pitfalls & FAQ

“Isn’t this toxic positivity?”

No. We keep facts, soften harsh bias, and add a small, doable action. It’s accuracy plus compassion.

“What if I don’t believe the new line?”

Make it more believable. “I can handle everything” → “I can try the first minute.” Believability drives results.

“How long until it works?”

Often a tiny shift immediately; wiring strengthens over weeks with repetition and action.

13) Tracking & printables

Use a simple tally (✔) when you use a phrase. Aim for 20–30 reps in two weeks.

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